Book recommendation: The Struggle Is Real

Best books for new parents

Brian Gordon is back with this sequel that further delves into the pain points of parenting. If you don’t already have kids, read this first! “It’s almost exactly like a day of parenting, except without the annoying little people.” It’s all about setting expectations — especially if this is your first parental rodeo. It’s just that we humans are notoriously bad at it. “When you board a plane, they give you a safety talk about possible emergencies. If something bad happens, you’re supposed […]

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Book recommendation: Welcome To Parenting

Book Recommendation for all new parents

“I used to be cool and do cool things,” sounds about as accurate of a description as I’ve ever heard about parenting. This is the ultimate gift for new parents. My husband gifted Welcome To Parenting to a colleague for the birth of their first child. The birth ended up in a cesarean and the baby on a short detour to the NICU, so this book was a welcome distraction for the frazzled, tired, new parents while in hospital. A few […]

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Book recommendation: The Fourth Trimester

The Fourth Trimester by Susan Brink

An encouraging and positive read that mixes science with real-life stories. Susan Brink is filling a gap in the literature that new parents discover when they enter the fourth trimester. She writes specifically to help shine a light on what’s going on in little babies for the first months of life. The first three months of a baby’s life is an outside-the-uterus period of intense development, a biological bridge from foetal life to preparation for the real world. The fourth […]

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How to know if your parent is a narcissist

How to know if your parent is a narcissist

Whenever I start talking about narcissism and being raised by a narcissist, I’m always overwhelmed by the response. It’s clear that not just one or two of use have been raised by at least one narcissistic parent.

Having a narcissist for a parent wreaks havoc on your self-esteem, feelings of well-being and safety, courage and confidence for years.

Your relationship with your parents is a very intimate one because you wholly depend on them at a young age to teach you (directly and indirectly) everything about life. Eventually, you go out to explore on your own, but the foundation for your expectations and capability to deal with everything is shaped by those early relationships.

The belief that you are never good enough implants itself deeply within your psyche when you’re raised by a narcissist. It also damages your boundaries and sets you up for a lifetime of bending over backwards to please others at your own expense and thwarts your ability to communicate authentically.

It distorts your self-image to the point where it damages your relationships as well as your capability to be successful both personally and professionally. Most people never get the help they need in order to recover and heal because they never realise that what they experienced as children was unhealthy and destructive.

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Why do all children deserve to have good self-esteem? Set your kid up for success in life with this amazing advice

A diamond is a chunk of coal that did well under pressure

Behind every child who believes in themselves is a parent who believed in them first.

Strong self-esteem is the best defense your children can have against life’s challenges. But it isn’t passed on like a family heirloom and cannot simply be given, you need to teach your children how to build it in themselves.

It is far easier to build up the self-esteem of a child than it is to repair it in an adult. Having low self-esteem is like driving through life with the hand-brake on and you will never truly thrive until you discover the potential within yourself and realise that you can do the things you believed you couldn’t.

Children build self-esteem by doing things that are hard and learning what works. Self-esteem is the real magic that shapes your child’s future.

Every child is a star and has the right to sparkle.

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