I forgive you, husband, for having a reductionist money mindset. I forgive you for regularly sabotaging your own potential for earning more and for not protecting our joint money better. In a way I feel like it’s unfair of me to say that I forgive you because as many fuck-ups as you’ve made with money, I’ve matched every single one of them.
Though I know I’ve been the one to be more obsessed about how we spend our money and know that its’ always been a good thing because of the savings we ended up with or because we paid off debts – but your attitude towards money still made me feel like such a nag.
And I forgive you for that too. Because if you wouldn’t have made me feel like I was the only one worrying about saving money, I wouldn’t have been as stubborn about it as I was. And I think that experience of being able to save money, even when we were living on my measly shop worker’s salary, I wouldn’t have such faith in that even if we lost everything, we could still manage on very little.
I mean we’ve done it often enough, we even managed through those times when we didn’t have enough money for food. And that was bad. Like bad bad. After that it almost feels like any improvement is a vast improvement. Because that’s not something I’m keen to go back to at all, but I do believe that we could manage. But I also remember when we got married one of the things that drove you was making more money. More because you needed to prove to yourself that you could make a lot of money, show all the naysayers and give a finger to those who refused to help you when you needed it.
But I want to hold things lightly and still believe that success and financial abundance will come. Not far in the future, but soon. In the next few years. The kind of abundance that gives you that freedom from stress, not material opulence. Though nothing can ever buy your freedom from your past, that’s just something you have to make peace with, hard as it is to do so. But I believe it’s worth it because once you’re able to genuinely set down that burden, the whole world opens up to you. And the possibilities suddenly become endless.
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