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How to declutter your emotional closet (with a little help from F.R.I.E.N.D.S.)

Watch your thoughts quote by Lao Tzu

Just like our regular closet, our emotional closet gets filled up with all sorts of things. And just like we periodically get stung by inspiration to Marie Kondo our way through our clothes, it would do us a world of good to unload some of our emotional baggage every now and again.

The funny thing about emotions though, is that, even though they’re biological markers for us to use along the way – and very useful at that – they can get us stuck.

To avoid getting bogged down in cognitive traps spinning your wheels, you need to take your feelings with a grain of salt.

Hearing what your gut feeling says isn’t always easy and the emotional jungle you have to traverse to get to it can be quite dense. However, I assure you that the journey is well worth it and will free up considerable cognitive resources.

Is today the day you dump some of that stuff you’ve been hauling around since 1992?

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Should you give up on having creative hobbies if you aren’t the creative type?

Why you should have a creative hobby

So, you can’t draw. Or knit. Or go near superglue without gluing at least two fingers together. You can’t decorate a cake to save your life and your violin playing makes the alleycats yowl.

So what? Does that mean that you should give up on having creative hobbies? Of course not!

Creativity is a fundamental part of who you are as a human being – and it doesn’t matter what the end result looks like. That’s something that you tweak with practice.

Without creativity we wouldn’t have started using fire, crafting tools or creating cave art – let alone developed culture and modern society.

Even the greatest masters started somewhere and the first time might have looked or tasted or sounded awful but it felt right.

Have you given up on your own creativity?

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5 tips from a copywriter on writing cover letters that get read instead of trashed

How to Write a Cover Letter

We used to live in communitites where we’d spend most of our lives with familiar people. Since we started moving to the cities, we’re faced with the challenge of convincing people we’ve never met to take a chance on us and give us a job.

To make that happen, you want to make sure that people remember you. One of the cardinal rules of good copywriting is to be a part of the conversation before you actually come face to face with a potential employer. You can only be memorable, if you make your communication memorable.

Get some of the best advice out there on how to land that dream job in this article.

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5 steps to discovering your core values

The Subtle Art of Not Giving A Fuck quote Mark Manson

Your values are a powerful thing. Even though they’re “just ideas” they shape your life and are the underlying root cause to most of your decisions.

Knowing your own core values will guide you towards a more meaningful and satisfying life. It reduces stress, improves your health, problem-solving skills and drives you to make better decisions. Connecting with your values revs up your willpower and makes you persist in the face of difficulty.

You will be both more assertive and more compassionate, have more confidence and make better choices in life and career alike.

When you honour your personal core values consistently, you experience fulfilment. When you don’t, you’ll feel like your life isn’t compatible with who you are and like you have no control over your own happiness. You’ll also be more likely to escape into bad habits and regress into childish behaviour to uplift yourself.

How much longer can you afford to wait before finding your core values?

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Bully-proofing your kids is simpler than you think

Feelings are like waves we can surf

Dr. Seuss said, “Be yourself because the people who mind don’t matter. And the people that matter don’t mind”.

With anxiety and depression rates in young people growing at the same rate as smartphone adoption, it’s more important than ever to raise strong, self-aware children who can not only survive meeting a bully, but thrive in a world full of them.

By extension, raising bully-proof kids, will also raise kids who don’t bully. Compassion and empathy is the only way we have back to each other, back to a place where we can connect with each other and be part of something greater than ourselves.

Compassion is not a virtue, it’s a commitment. It’s not something we have or don’t have – it’s something we choose to practice every day, every challenge.

The earlier we begin to foster compassion in our children, the easier it will be for them to choose compassion over antagonism.

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How to remain zen as f*ck when faced with an adult bully

Namaste Bitches this is how you deal with adult bullies

Bullying is a horrible thing. It sticks to you and stays with you. It will make you susceptible to being bullied again and it will even define your worth if you let it.

Some bullies you grow up with, others you meet in the school yard. Yet more of them pepper your work life and it isn’t a question of if you’ll run into them, but when.

If you’re looking for a quick fix to bullying, this isn’t it. A quick search on your internet machine will turn up plenty of those articles.

This is my deep-dive into understanding and resolving the consequences of bullying; to understand what bullying looks like, how it can be difficult to see, the mechanisms that enable it and what I, as the victim, can do about it in order to affect tangible change.

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How to help your child deal with strong emotions

Empathy not only matters; it is the foundation of effective parenting

Children need love – especially when they seem to deserve it the least. And that’s when it can be so incredibly hard to find a compassionate response.

Dealing with a developing brain and a human being learning how to hooman gets overwhelming at times. And arguing with a miniature version of myself, with the same shit-ass attitude, can get really frustrating.

When I say “Get dressed”, I don’t mean stand around watching TV with one sock on. Some days my mom voice is so loud even the neighbours brush their teeth and get dressed.

I can’t promise to fix all my daughter’s problems, but I can make sure she never faces them alone. Ultimately, I’m not dealing with just a tantrum, I’m training her in how to survive life and I’d like for my legacy to be the best advice she ever got.

This is but one mother’s quest to navigate the temper tantrums of a developing toddler brain, because life can get hard and things can go wrong, but no matter what, you’ve got to stay strong.

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Is it absurd to smile when you don’t feel like it?

A smiling face is truly a beautiful face and a simple smile is the door to opening your heart to compassion.

Everyone recognises and understands a smile because a smile is the universal language of kindness and friendliness. With hundreds of languages around the world, the smile speaks them all.

A smile is the shortest distance between two people and when you smile you get smiles in return. Not only is a smile a powerful gesture to show others, but also a way to have an effect on your own mood.

When you smile, even if you’re alone, your brain will be primed for oxytocin because it will begin to expect good things; your face is smiling, that must mean something fun is about to happen, right?

Besides being the prettiest thing you can wear, a smile is like free therapy. So, go on, smile while you still have teeth!

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6 ways introverts and cats are alike

How introverts and cats are alike

For the longest time I thought I was a dog person, just because I grew up around dog people.

But I always felt emotionally drained by dogs, constantly paying attention to me, always wanting me to go do something and never letting me make a trip to the fridge by myself.

Then, I discovered cats with their aloof ways and nonchalant manner, and I just bailed on dogs, like a rat getting off the Titanic.

Plus, when I complain about what a little sh*t my cat is being everyone agrees! Cat people totally know what I’m talking about and dog people think cats are little sh*ts anyway.

I totally get cats, they like to chill out and do their own thing and I can so relate to that.

All I need is a full tabletop of stuff to swipe to the floor and I’ll practically be a cat!

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