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If you’re highly sensitive and feel worn out by your job these tips can help you feel better

When I worked full-time, there were days I left work feeling like an 18-wheeler had done a 5-point-turn on over me.

I felt totally drained and exhausted. I came home and wouldn’t have the energy to do a single thing. Still, dinner needed to be cooked and lunch made ready for the next day, the apartment needed cleaning, the cat needed feeding and the litter box cleaning.

Overwhelmed by others’ energy I had very little patience left to consciously offer anything to anyone else. I was completely spent, and that was just by Monday evening.

At work, I spent a lot of time in the bathroom stall, tears silently falling, my shoulders shaking from sobbing, without a clue of what just happened or why I was feeling so lost.

I would come to work perfectly happy and within minutes of entering the building, I’d turn moody and withdrawn. As the day went on, I got angry and then depressed. My emotions flickered like someone was playing with my emotional light switch.

To add insult to injury, without being aware of what was going on, I would regularly create a mental story to explain away all the emotions I was feeling.

I would bring up negative self-talk, old baggage, stories, fights, or even think about what negativity the future would bring.

As an empath, I feel everything deeply. Emotional, physical and mental perceptions affect me strongly. Just going on social media can change my mood in a moment.

Before I was aware of being an empath, I not only felt what others did, but also took on their emotional, physical and mental ailments as my own.

Learning how to manage my own energy and draw healthy boundaries has changed my work from a parade of misery to a much more joyful experience.

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How to genuinely comfort someone who is upset

How to genuinely make someone feel better when they're upset

If you want sympathy, look in the dictionary between SHIT and SYPHILIS.

Sympathy drives disconnection because it is drawing a silver lining around someone else’s pain and dismissing their feelings as no big deal.

You easily fall back on sympathy when you’re trying to protect your own heart (especially when you’re an overwhelmed empath), but acting like you don’t have a heart doesn’t make you a very good person.

How you make other people feel about themselves, says a lot about you.

Empathy fuels connection because it is feeling with another’s heart and seeing with another’s eyes.

Empathy is simply listening, holding space, withholding judgement, emotionally connecting and communicating “you’re not alone”.

Empathy is our way back to each other and it is empathy that changes the world for the better.

Empathy is me always willing to step into your shoes. Unless you wear Crocs, then you’re on your own!

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Are you searching in the branches for that which can only be found in the roots? (A grounding exercise for beginners)

Grounding exercises for empaths

Wouldn’t it be nice to go through life with a deep sense of calm and rarely think about the “what ifs”?

To have a sense of being fully embodied, whole, centred and balanced in yourself and your relationships and having a deeper connection to your authentic self?

Be in complete control of your mental and emotional self and not be easily influenced by other ideas and individuals?

Life repeats itself mindlessly – unless you become mindful, it will go on repeating like a wheel.

Birth is followed by death, death is followed by birth; love is followed by hate, hate is followed by love; success is followed by failure, failure is followed by success. Just see!

If you cling to the edge of the wheel you can get dizzy! Move toward the center of the cyclone and relax, knowing that this too will pass.

In the Native American cultures the wheel represents the four directions in the physical world and each direction symbolises a part of you. The north represents the mind, the south the heart, the east the place of spirit and the west represents the body.

Knowing how to get back to the centre and balance yourself again is an essential life skill.

When you’re grounded, you’re in complete control of your mental and emotional self, and not easily influenced by other ideas or individuals. When you’re grounded life’s small mishaps tend to just roll off you like water off a duck.

This achieving the centre, being grounded in one’s self, is about the lightest state a human being can achieve.

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Have you been told you need to grow thicker skin? Maybe you’re an empath!

Shine like the whole universe is yours

Empaths are emotional sponges who absorb both the stress and the joy from the world around them.

To really thrive as an empath (not just survive), I think it’s critical to learn how to not take on the energy, stress and moods of other people.

To an empath, the world can often seem coarse, heartless and disdainful of sensitivity. I know I’ve been told time and again that I need to be less sensitive if I want to succeed in life.

But I say that there is nothing wrong with being sensitive. Being sensitive to the world around you isn’t a weakness that needs to be stamped out.

I think empathy is the very thing about you that is most right in the world. Rather than “growing thicker skin”, I believe it’s more important for you to learn skills to help you cope with a highly sensitive nervous system.

When you learn to understand your specific needs as an empath, you’ll be able to truly connect with yourself (and others), be your authentic self and shine as an empath.

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Copywriters are only good for writing sales copy. Right?

What does a copywriter do?

There seems to be a lot of confusion about what a copywriter really does. Sometimes, I find it damn near impossible to explain what it is that my job as a copywriter really is.

In a market that exists in parallel – both online and offline – I think copywriters are especially under-utilised, typically used for writing sales copy that is as interesting as watching paint dry.

A good copywriter can almost work magic just with words. A good copywriter will pull a thread from the essence of the brand to the heart of a potential customer and give that baby a pulse, make a genuine connection, create a true fan.

But if we’re so good at communicating, why aren’t our talents put to better use than copy-pasting text from the legal department to the website?

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Hey, I remember you!

Like boobs, women are better when they're real

They say knowing a person is like music. What attracts us to them is their melody and as we get to know them better, we learn the lyrics.

Now, this is where it gets tricky because a lot of my favourite music is often without lyrics!

Deep house, electronica and classical is the kind of music that washes over me like an ocean and sets my soul on fire, sparks a cosmic dance in my very being. Back in dance school, I used to willingly drown myself in this type of music in class, letting my soul float off on the tunes like a kite.

The kind of music I happen to like is very sparse on words or the words are limited and repetitive. Or they’re those songs where the lyrics aren’t very clear, so you spend a long time singing them wrong, until one day you look them up and discover that not only have you been getting them belting-at-the-top-of-your-lungs-wrong, the real lyrics make very little sense without more context (so you go back to singing them your way).

My point is: what lyrics you’ll hear as we become the best of friends is really anyone’s guess!

So, what about you? What kind of music makes up the original soundtrack to your life?

Hit pause on life with me for a bit and let’s get to know each other better!

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The smarter way to deal with a crying child

The funny thing about kids is that they're the reason we lose our shit and the reason we keep it together.

Parenting is a lot like the bar scene; everyone’s yelling, everything is sticky, the same music plays over and over again and once in a while somebody pukes. There’s also a lot more yelling at people from the bathroom than I ever imagined.

Parenting was a lot easier when I was raising my non-existent kids hypothetically. Back then I didn’t know that I could ruin someone’s day by asking them to put pants on.

The standard toddler to-do list goes something like this:
1) Ask for waffle
2) Refuse offered waffle
3) Ask why your waffle was taken away
4) Cry because you don’t have your waffle

…and that’s on a good day.

I feel like every time I say “no” my kid hears “ask again, she didn’t understand the question”.

They say women average about 20,000 words a day. My toddler manages that before breakfast. I routinely find myself staring blankly at my husband because I can’t remember what we were talking about after being interrupted 178 times.

Somebody asked me what the hardest thing about parenting is, I said “it’s the kids”. Ever had a job where you had no experience, no training, weren’t allowed to quit and people’s lives depended on you?

I am a strong woman raising a strong child which is why I need a strong drink. One day I’ll be thankful that my kid is strong willed, but that will not be today. Not in this grocery store.

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How your mobile phone is affecting the way you think and behave – 7 TED talks you need to see

The cell phone is the adult's teddy bear

Smartphones have taken over our lives. Like so many Lemmings, they’ve crowded into every nook and cranny and now we can’t go anywhere without them – even to bed.

Studies and surveys have uncovered that people sleep with their phones and wake up during the night to check what the latest haps are. People have even admitted to checking their phones during sex.

How big is the effect of smartphones and constant connectivity on our daily life? On our behaviour? On our brains?

Technology companies know exactly how to use our natural biological functions (drugs) to keep us wanting more – and the more we want, the more they profit.

Are you still caught in the Matrix?

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How to turn your pain into empowerment

Never regret a day in your life.

The thing about success is, that we don’t achieve it despite feeling pain. We achieve it because we experience pain.

Now, I know this sounds like the short end of the stick – it kind of is – but if we spend our lives running away from the pain we’re never going to benefit from it.

Life has a funny way of always coming back at us with the lessons that we didn’t learn the first time around. If you turn a blind eye and a deaf ear, life will double up and hammer at that wall you built with two catapults instead of one.

So, success isn’t defined by how well you avoid painful situations and uncomfortable conversations. It’s defined by what you do after you’ve been through the ringer – and how you take that pain and turn it into an invaluable lesson that will propel you forward in life.

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Transform your work through the relationships you build

Quote by Robert Bader-Powell

Transactional relationships are very good and very useful: they make the world go around. You don’t need to become besties with every supermarket checkout person you meet, you just need them to do their job.

And you won’t build transformational relationships with every person you come across, but if you can do it with the right people you will find that previously unimaginable horizons will open up to you.

You will discover what loyalty and commitment really feel like and how creating those elusive win-win situations is a truly worthy goal. You will marvel at the depth of compassion in someone who genuinely wants the best for you, rather than what looks like a good choice at the moment.

The people with whom you have transformational relationships are the pillars in your life, enabling you to do things you could never achieve alone – both at work and in life.

Learn the difference between transactional and transformational, so that you can cultivate a little bit of transformational into most relationships and recognise a good thing when it comes your way.

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