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5 reasons why you need grit and 5 ways to get it (not the sand kind, but the mental toughness kind)

Grit is sticking with your future day in and day out quote

You know, you can bring all the talent in the world, and say that you’re going to depend on that alone, but it will only get you so far.

To get there it’s going to take grit and grind and desire. Every piston needs to be pumping at full-throttle in the engine if you’re going to win.

Once you start thinking of building grit as a life strategy, it becomes easier to weave it into every aspect of your life without even really thinking about it.

Having grit, being resilient and mentally tough is vital if you want to be a happy, accomplished person and live a life that gives you great joy and satisfaction.

Grit will allow you to develop an unshakeable confidence and positive outlook in life, be mentally equipped to tackle any challenge and become emotionally “bulletproof” in times of crisis, which will allow you to navigate the fallout until you arrive at a better place.

With grit you will have the calm confidence to take on those chances that terrify you but are worth the risk and you’ll be able to fully embrace the life you’ve always wanted.

Once you get gritty, the rest tends to fall into place.

In the end, you have to decide if you want to regret the chances you took or the opportunities you missed.

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10 things you can learn from highly resilient people

Strong people know how to organise their suffering resilience quote

It’s natural to resist change, especially when it comes in the form of challenges and adversity.

Who wants to climb the mountain when you can take the ski-lift and enjoy the view on a leisurely ascent to the top?

But since change is the only constant in life, change is inevitable.

Building up yourself to become more resilient will not only help you survive and bounce back from change, but it will also allow you to thrive even in difficult circumstances.

Think of every person who ever made the best of a bad situation. Who survived the seemingly unsurvivable. Who conquered their own fears and achieved the unthinkable.

They were all resilient. Don’t miss out on these simple things you can do to build your own resilience.

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Did you realise that your smartphone is exploiting your brain’s natural chemistry for profit and gradually changing how you behave?

The cell phone is the adult's teddy bear

Smartphones have taken over our lives. Like so many Lemmings, they’ve crowded into every nook and cranny and now we can’t go anywhere without them – even to bed.

Studies and surveys have uncovered that people sleep with their phones and wake up during the night to check what the latest haps are. People have even admitted to checking their phones during sex.

How big is the effect of smartphones and constant connectivity on our daily life? On our behaviour? On our brains?

Technology companies know exactly how to use our natural biological functions (drugs) to keep us wanting more – and the more we want, the more they profit.

Are you still caught in the Matrix?

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Have an adult bully at work? How to remain zen as f*ck when faced with an adult bully

Namaste Bitches this is how you deal with adult bullies

Bullying is a horrible thing. It sticks to you and stays with you. It will make you susceptible to being bullied again and it will even define your worth if you let it.

Some bullies you grow up with, others you meet in the school yard. Yet more of them pepper your work life and it isn’t a question of if you’ll run into them, but when.

If you’re looking for a quick fix to bullying, this isn’t it. A quick search on your internet machine will turn up plenty of those articles.

This is my deep-dive into understanding and resolving the consequences of bullying; to understand what bullying looks like, how it can be difficult to see, the mechanisms that enable it and what I, as the victim, can do about it in order to affect tangible change.

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Worried about how your kids are gonna deal with life? Bully-proofing your kids is simpler than you think

Feelings are like waves we can surf

Dr. Seuss said, “Be yourself because the people who mind don’t matter. And the people that matter don’t mind”.

With anxiety and depression rates in young people growing at the same rate as smartphone adoption, it’s more important than ever to raise strong, self-aware children who can not only survive meeting a bully, but thrive in a world full of them.

By extension, raising bully-proof kids, will also raise kids who don’t bully. Compassion and empathy is the only way we have back to each other, back to a place where we can connect with each other and be part of something greater than ourselves.

Compassion is not a virtue, it’s a commitment. It’s not something we have or don’t have – it’s something we choose to practice every day, every challenge.

The earlier we begin to foster compassion in our children, the easier it will be for them to choose compassion over antagonism.

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Is it absurd to smile when you don’t feel like it?

A smiling face is truly a beautiful face and a simple smile is the door to opening your heart to compassion.

Everyone recognises and understands a smile because a smile is the universal language of kindness and friendliness. With hundreds of languages around the world, the smile speaks them all.

A smile is the shortest distance between two people and when you smile you get smiles in return. Not only is a smile a powerful gesture to show others, but also a way to have an effect on your own mood.

When you smile, even if you’re alone, your brain will be primed for oxytocin because it will begin to expect good things; your face is smiling, that must mean something fun is about to happen, right?

Besides being the prettiest thing you can wear, a smile is like free therapy. So, go on, smile while you still have teeth!

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