Just like our regular closet, our emotional closet gets filled up with all sorts of things. And just like we periodically get stung by inspiration to Marie Kondo our way through our clothes, it would do us a world of good to unload some of our emotional baggage every now and again.
The funny thing about emotions though, is that, even though they’re biological markers for us to use along the way – and very useful at that – they can get us stuck.
To avoid getting bogged down in cognitive traps spinning your wheels, you need to take your feelings with a grain of salt.
Hearing what your gut feeling says isn’t always easy and the emotional jungle you have to traverse to get to it can be quite dense. However, I assure you that the journey is well worth it and will free up considerable cognitive resources.
Is today the day you dump some of that stuff you’ve been hauling around since 1992?
So, you can’t draw. Or knit. Or go near superglue without gluing at least two fingers together. You can’t decorate a cake to save your life and your violin playing makes the alleycats yowl.
So what? Does that mean that you should give up on having creative hobbies? Of course not!
Creativity is a fundamental part of who you are as a human being – and it doesn’t matter what the end result looks like. That’s something that you tweak with practice.
Without creativity we wouldn’t have started using fire, crafting tools or creating cave art – let alone developed culture and modern society.
Even the greatest masters started somewhere and the first time might have looked or tasted or sounded awful but it felt right.
Have you given up on your own creativity?
Your values are a powerful thing. Even though they’re “just ideas” they shape your life and are the underlying root cause to most of your decisions.
Knowing your own core values will guide you towards a more meaningful and satisfying life. It reduces stress, improves your health, problem-solving skills and drives you to make better decisions. Connecting with your values revs up your willpower and makes you persist in the face of difficulty.
You will be both more assertive and more compassionate, have more confidence and make better choices in life and career alike.
When you honour your personal core values consistently, you experience fulfilment. When you don’t, you’ll feel like your life isn’t compatible with who you are and like you have no control over your own happiness. You’ll also be more likely to escape into bad habits and regress into childish behaviour to uplift yourself.
How much longer can you afford to wait before finding your core values?