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If you’re highly sensitive and feel worn out by your job these tips can help you feel better

When I worked full-time, there were days I left work feeling like an 18-wheeler had done a 5-point-turn on over me.

I felt totally drained and exhausted. I came home and wouldn’t have the energy to do a single thing. Still, dinner needed to be cooked and lunch made ready for the next day, the apartment needed cleaning, the cat needed feeding and the litter box cleaning.

Overwhelmed by others’ energy I had very little patience left to consciously offer anything to anyone else. I was completely spent, and that was just by Monday evening.

At work, I spent a lot of time in the bathroom stall, tears silently falling, my shoulders shaking from sobbing, without a clue of what just happened or why I was feeling so lost.

I would come to work perfectly happy and within minutes of entering the building, I’d turn moody and withdrawn. As the day went on, I got angry and then depressed. My emotions flickered like someone was playing with my emotional light switch.

To add insult to injury, without being aware of what was going on, I would regularly create a mental story to explain away all the emotions I was feeling.

I would bring up negative self-talk, old baggage, stories, fights, or even think about what negativity the future would bring.

As an empath, I feel everything deeply. Emotional, physical and mental perceptions affect me strongly. Just going on social media can change my mood in a moment.

Before I was aware of being an empath, I not only felt what others did, but also took on their emotional, physical and mental ailments as my own.

Learning how to manage my own energy and draw healthy boundaries has changed my work from a parade of misery to a much more joyful experience.

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Do you have what it takes to turn your pain into power?

Never regret a day in your life.

The thing about success is, that we don’t achieve it despite feeling pain. We achieve it because we experience pain.

Now, I know this sounds like the short end of the stick – it kind of is – but if we spend our lives running away from the pain we’re never going to benefit from it.

Life has a funny way of always coming back at us with the lessons that we didn’t learn the first time around. If you turn a blind eye and a deaf ear, life will double up and hammer at that wall you built with two catapults instead of one.

So, success isn’t defined by how well you avoid painful situations and uncomfortable conversations. It’s defined by what you do after you’ve been through the ringer – and how you take that pain and turn it into an invaluable lesson that will propel you forward in life.

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Do you feel like you’re drifting aimlessly through life? Use these 5 steps do discover your core values

The Subtle Art of Not Giving A Fuck quote Mark Manson

Your values are a powerful thing. Even though they’re “just ideas” they shape your life and are the underlying root cause to most of your decisions.

Knowing your own core values will guide you towards a more meaningful and satisfying life. It reduces stress, improves your health, problem-solving skills and drives you to make better decisions. Connecting with your values revs up your willpower and makes you persist in the face of difficulty.

You will be both more assertive and more compassionate, have more confidence and make better choices in life and career alike.

When you honour your personal core values consistently, you experience fulfilment. When you don’t, you’ll feel like your life isn’t compatible with who you are and like you have no control over your own happiness. You’ll also be more likely to escape into bad habits and regress into childish behaviour to uplift yourself.

How much longer can you afford to wait before finding your core values?

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Want to deal with less hissy fits? Coach your child through the strong emotions with these tips

Empathy not only matters; it is the foundation of effective parenting

Children need love – especially when they seem to deserve it the least. And that’s when it can be so incredibly hard to find a compassionate response.

Dealing with a developing brain and a human being learning how to hooman gets overwhelming at times. And arguing with a miniature version of myself, with the same shit-ass attitude, can get really frustrating.

When I say “Get dressed”, I don’t mean stand around watching TV with one sock on. Some days my mom voice is so loud even the neighbours brush their teeth and get dressed.

I can’t promise to fix all my daughter’s problems, but I can make sure she never faces them alone. Ultimately, I’m not dealing with just a tantrum, I’m training her in how to survive life and I’d like for my legacy to be the best advice she ever got.

This is but one mother’s quest to navigate the temper tantrums of a developing toddler brain, because life can get hard and things can go wrong, but no matter what, you’ve got to stay strong.

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