The thing about success is, that we don’t achieve it despite feeling pain. We achieve it because we experience pain.
Now, I know this sounds like the short end of the stick – it kind of is – but if we spend our lives running away from the pain we’re never going to benefit from it.
Life has a funny way of always coming back at us with the lessons that we didn’t learn the first time around. If you turn a blind eye and a deaf ear, life will double up and hammer at that wall you built with two catapults instead of one.
So, success isn’t defined by how well you avoid painful situations and uncomfortable conversations. It’s defined by what you do after you’ve been through the ringer – and how you take that pain and turn it into an invaluable lesson that will propel you forward in life.
Your values are a powerful thing. Even though they’re “just ideas” they shape your life and are the underlying root cause to most of your decisions.
Knowing your own core values will guide you towards a more meaningful and satisfying life. It reduces stress, improves your health, problem-solving skills and drives you to make better decisions. Connecting with your values revs up your willpower and makes you persist in the face of difficulty.
You will be both more assertive and more compassionate, have more confidence and make better choices in life and career alike.
When you honour your personal core values consistently, you experience fulfilment. When you don’t, you’ll feel like your life isn’t compatible with who you are and like you have no control over your own happiness. You’ll also be more likely to escape into bad habits and regress into childish behaviour to uplift yourself.
How much longer can you afford to wait before finding your core values?
Children need love – especially when they seem to deserve it the least. And that’s when it can be so incredibly hard to find a compassionate response.
Dealing with a developing brain and a human being learning how to hooman gets overwhelming at times. And arguing with a miniature version of myself, with the same shit-ass attitude, can get really frustrating.
When I say “Get dressed”, I don’t mean stand around watching TV with one sock on. Some days my mom voice is so loud even the neighbours brush their teeth and get dressed.
I can’t promise to fix all my daughter’s problems, but I can make sure she never faces them alone. Ultimately, I’m not dealing with just a tantrum, I’m training her in how to survive life and I’d like for my legacy to be the best advice she ever got.
This is but one mother’s quest to navigate the temper tantrums of a developing toddler brain, because life can get hard and things can go wrong, but no matter what, you’ve got to stay strong.