If you want sympathy, look in the dictionary between SHIT and SYPHILIS.
Sympathy drives disconnection because it is drawing a silver lining around someone else’s pain and dismissing their feelings as no big deal.
You easily fall back on sympathy when you’re trying to protect your own heart (especially when you’re an overwhelmed empath), but acting like you don’t have a heart doesn’t make you a very good person.
How you make other people feel about themselves, says a lot about you.
Empathy fuels connection because it is feeling with another’s heart and seeing with another’s eyes.
Empathy is simply listening, holding space, withholding judgement, emotionally connecting and communicating “you’re not alone”.
Empathy is our way back to each other and it is empathy that changes the world for the better.
Empathy is me always willing to step into your shoes. Unless you wear Crocs, then you’re on your own!
Parenting is a lot like the bar scene; everyone’s yelling, everything is sticky, the same music plays over and over again and once in a while somebody pukes. There’s also a lot more yelling at people from the bathroom than I ever imagined.
Parenting was a lot easier when I was raising my non-existent kids hypothetically. Back then I didn’t know that I could ruin someone’s day by asking them to put pants on.
The standard toddler to-do list goes something like this:
1) Ask for waffle
2) Refuse offered waffle
3) Ask why your waffle was taken away
4) Cry because you don’t have your waffle
…and that’s on a good day.
I feel like every time I say “no” my kid hears “ask again, she didn’t understand the question”.
They say women average about 20,000 words a day. My toddler manages that before breakfast. I routinely find myself staring blankly at my husband because I can’t remember what we were talking about after being interrupted 178 times.
Somebody asked me what the hardest thing about parenting is, I said “it’s the kids”. Ever had a job where you had no experience, no training, weren’t allowed to quit and people’s lives depended on you?
I am a strong woman raising a strong child which is why I need a strong drink. One day I’ll be thankful that my kid is strong willed, but that will not be today. Not in this grocery store.