Empaths are emotional sponges who absorb both the stress and the joy from the world around them.
To really thrive as an empath (not just survive), I think it’s critical to learn how to not take on the energy, stress and moods of other people.
To an empath, the world can often seem coarse, heartless and disdainful of sensitivity. I know I’ve been told time and again that I need to be less sensitive if I want to succeed in life.
But I say that there is nothing wrong with being sensitive. Being sensitive to the world around you isn’t a weakness that needs to be stamped out.
I think empathy is the very thing about you that is most right in the world. Rather than “growing thicker skin”, I believe it’s more important for you to learn skills to help you cope with a highly sensitive nervous system.
When you learn to understand your specific needs as an empath, you’ll be able to truly connect with yourself (and others), be your authentic self and shine as an empath.
The thing about success is, that we don’t achieve it despite feeling pain. We achieve it because we experience pain.
Now, I know this sounds like the short end of the stick – it kind of is – but if we spend our lives running away from the pain we’re never going to benefit from it.
Life has a funny way of always coming back at us with the lessons that we didn’t learn the first time around. If you turn a blind eye and a deaf ear, life will double up and hammer at that wall you built with two catapults instead of one.
So, success isn’t defined by how well you avoid painful situations and uncomfortable conversations. It’s defined by what you do after you’ve been through the ringer – and how you take that pain and turn it into an invaluable lesson that will propel you forward in life.
So, you can’t draw. Or knit. Or go near superglue without gluing at least two fingers together. You can’t decorate a cake to save your life and your violin playing makes the alleycats yowl.
So what? Does that mean that you should give up on having creative hobbies? Of course not!
Creativity is a fundamental part of who you are as a human being – and it doesn’t matter what the end result looks like. That’s something that you tweak with practice.
Without creativity we wouldn’t have started using fire, crafting tools or creating cave art – let alone developed culture and modern society.
Even the greatest masters started somewhere and the first time might have looked or tasted or sounded awful but it felt right.
Have you given up on your own creativity?
Your values are a powerful thing. Even though they’re “just ideas” they shape your life and are the underlying root cause to most of your decisions.
Knowing your own core values will guide you towards a more meaningful and satisfying life. It reduces stress, improves your health, problem-solving skills and drives you to make better decisions. Connecting with your values revs up your willpower and makes you persist in the face of difficulty.
You will be both more assertive and more compassionate, have more confidence and make better choices in life and career alike.
When you honour your personal core values consistently, you experience fulfilment. When you don’t, you’ll feel like your life isn’t compatible with who you are and like you have no control over your own happiness. You’ll also be more likely to escape into bad habits and regress into childish behaviour to uplift yourself.
How much longer can you afford to wait before finding your core values?
Parenting is hard. Especially, when you’re trying to be patient with a little impatient versions of yourself.
Parenting is the easiest thing in the world to have an opinion about, but the hardest thing in the world to do.
If parenting came with a GPS it would just mostly say “recalculating”.
It often feels like 90% of parenting consists of thinking about when you can lie down again. It’s a constant battle between going to bed early to catch up on some sleep and staying awake to finally get some alone time.
And it’s hilarious when kids trundle up to you and tell you they’re bored. As if the lady standing in front of a full sink of dishes is where you get ideas about how to have a good time.
They say it takes a village to raise a child. Where can I get directions to this frickin’ village??
Behind every child who believes in themselves is a parent who believed in them first.
Strong self-esteem is the best defense your children can have against life’s challenges. But it isn’t passed on like a family heirloom and cannot simply be given, you need to teach your children how to build it in themselves.
It is far easier to build up the self-esteem of a child than it is to repair it in an adult. Having low self-esteem is like driving through life with the hand-brake on and you will never truly thrive until you discover the potential within yourself and realise that you can do the things you believed you couldn’t.
Children build self-esteem by doing things that are hard and learning what works. Self-esteem is the real magic that shapes your child’s future.
Every child is a star and has the right to sparkle.